Transcript PAPA Unit for NetSchool.pptx

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Take the Pre Test
› Remember that we
are just seeing what
information you
already know.
› Don’t Stress – Just
go with the answer
you believe is
correct.
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There is no difference between a legal father and a
biological father.
A father can only be the legal father to children born in
marriage.
One can determine who the father is by whom the child
looks like.
The hospital where a child is born determines the legal
father’s identity.
If a teenaged father is not married, he cannot be made to
pay child support.
If a child receives Temporary Assistances for Needy
Families (TANF), a father will not be required to pay child
support.
Mothers cannot be required to pay child support.
A genetic (DNA) test is over 99% accurate.
Jealousy is a good sign in a relationship; it means that you
boyfriend/girlfriend really cares about you.
One month of child care for an infants costs more than one
month of food for a family of three.
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Session 1 – Video Clip
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What do you think
would go through your
mind if you found out
tomorrow that you were
going to be a parent?
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Non-Custodial Parent: The parent does not have primary
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Custodial Parent: The person who has primary care,
care, custody, or control of the child, and has an obligation to pay
child support. Also referred to as the obligor.
custody, or control of the child(ren).
› Sometimes the fathers take the role of custodial parent.
› Non-Custodial Parent is responsible for helping to
support the child financially.
› The Attorney General’s Child Support Division helps
locate non-custodial parents; establish paternity;
establish orders for child support and medical support;
collect child support; and enforce the payment of child
support and medical support when the non-custodial
parent does not pay as ordered.
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Activity: Defining Yourself – Who Are You?
› Who are you? What are you like? You can use
all kinds of words to describe yourself. You
may be a student, an athlete, friendly, smart,
quiet or funny. We all have a lot of personal
power in defining ourselves, now write two or
three words that describe you.
 Can people change what they are?
 How do definitions influence our behavior?
 How can you influence the way others define
us?
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Session 2 – Video Clip
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How would your parents react to the
news that you were going to have a
baby?
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What does it mean to be a parent?
› A person who is a biological parent is
responsible for supporting his or her child.
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What’s it really like to be a parent?
› Being a parent is fun, exciting, rewarding,
expensive, demanding and difficult.
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What does the future hold for you?
› Young people need to evaluate their own
readiness for parenthood and plan ahead to
make realistic decisions based on a solid
understanding of the legal and practical
consequences of becoming a parent.
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Biological Parent vs. Caregiver:
› BP: either of the two people who are the source
of the sperm and egg necessary to make a
baby.
› CG: a person who takes care of a child and
helps provide for the child’s basic needs and
safety at any given time.
A mother or father can be a BP and may
not be the CG.
 A grandparent may be a CG but is not a BP.
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› Every child needs a “GO-TO” caregiver, a
person who the child can depend on to be there
to provide for basic protection and care.
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Activity: Shopping for the Ideal Parent.
› You just found out that you are going to be a
grandparent. Here is the twist…. YOU get to
pick the parents!!!! Now create a wanted ad
for the newspaper.
 Do you think that your relationship (as the
Grandparents) is important with the child?
 Do you think it’s important for the child to have
two parents raising the child together?
 Is there a difference in what you are looking
for a father than a mother?
 Would you want your grandchild’s parents to
be married? Why?
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List the qualities or qualifications you're looking
for in order from most to least important. Bulletform is a great way to do this in a manner that
makes your priorities clear and succinct.
Follow the general wanted ad order. This
usually begins with the title: Wanted: (insert
what you want), followed by brief details on
what you want the item/person for and a pointform list that specifies exactly what you're
looking for. Also, include comprehensive
contact information at the bottom of the ad
and include the best time to contact you
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Session 3 – Video Clip
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How ready do you think
you would be for
childbirth?
Biological Father: the man whose sperm
caused the baby to be conceived.
 Alleged Father: a man who someone
claims is the biological father of the baby,
but whose paternity has not yet been
established.
 Presumed Father: a man who was married
to the baby’s mother at or within 300 days of
the time of the baby’s birth.
 Legal Father: a man who has signed an
AOP form or whom the court finds
responsible for supporting the baby.
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Activity: What Would You Do?
› Read the assigned scenario and be ready to
share what you and your group discussed.
 Frieda
 Monica
 John
 Leticia
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Session 4 – Video Clip
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What do you think is the
most important role of a
father?
If a parent applies for public assistance
(“welfare”) they are automatically referred
the OAG.
 By signing the AOP you are saying that you
are the father and you are going to support
your child.
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› It doesn't however given you visitation (this can
be decided between the parents or through the
courts)
› It also allows either parent to have Health
Insurance on the child
› Also helps the child receive any death benefits
from either parent
Mom Wasn’t Ready for Me...
By ANONYMOUS
My mom was only 16 when she had me, her first child. By the time
she was 23, she had three little girls. I don’t think she was ready for any of us.
She needed more time to deal with the problems she herself had while
growing up. She didn’t need the lives of three young girls adding to her own
issues. But she went ahead and had us before she was ready. Now partly
because of this, I’m in foster care.
My mom told me she had me so young because she wanted
someone to love and to love her back. I understand the need to be loved, but
a baby doesn’t just give like that. A baby takes and takes and takes and takes.
If you have a baby because you want to receive love, you’re bound to be
disappointed, and the baby will feel it. I don’t think my mom realized any of
that. I don’t think she realized how difficult it is to be a mom while you’re still
trying to grow up yourself. She hopped and skipped right over her childhood,
and then she stumbled and we, her kids, struggled with her.
By the time I was about eight, I already had too much responsibility.
My mom supported our family financially, but she had me supporting us in
other ways. It’s like she was the working wife and I was the housewife.
After school I would come home and do my homework make sure my
room was clean and help my sister with her homework. Then after the other kids
were asleep I was still up doing my chores. I’d clean the dishes, scrub the
bathroom, and iron my baby sister’s school clothes. I would also get my grown
mama’s clothes ready for her to wear to work the next day. Even the weekends
weren’t easy. On the weekends, I washed everyone’s laundry. Now I didn’t mind
helping my mom out around the house but I feel like I missed my childhood. I
didn’t feel like I could say no, because if someone wasn’t doing all the things I
was doing, I might have gotten put into foster care much earlier.
So now I have strong feelings about teen pregnancy. I think people
should wait to grow up before they have babies. If you wait, you have more time
to learn how to deal with stress without resorting to violence or neglect. You also
have time to save money for a child and get used to holding down a job. You’re
less likely to blame your children for opportunities you might miss out on. When I
was picked to attend a conference on urban girls, I figured we’d talk about teen
pregnancy and how it had affected our lives. But that wasn’t what happened.
They talked only about the teen moms, and not about the children of teen
moms. Some of them talked about how it was nonsense that teen moms can’t
succeed in life.
Of course teen moms can finish high school and work good jobs. My
mom has a good job, and I’m proud of her for it. But what about the children of
teen mothers? Will those kids get the love, care and attention they need while
their teen parents are busy trying to grow up and be successful? Not once during
the session did I hear anyone talk about what can happen to you when you’re the
child of someone who isn’t ready to be a parent.
According to the National Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy,
children of teen mothers tend to do much worse in school than those born to
older parents, and they are 50 percent more likely to repeat a grade. Children
of teen moms also have a higher rate of behavior problems. They suffer
higher rates of abuse and neglect, and are more likely to go into foster care,
like I did. But the problems don’t end in childhood. Young adult children of
teen moms are 30 percent more likely to be neither working nor going to
school. The sons of teen mothers are 13 percent more likely to end up in
prison. Daughters of teen moms are 22 percent more likely to become
teen mothers themselves (which won’t happen to me!).
So how could anyone in good conscience have a workshop on teen
pregnancy and spend the whole time talking about the teen mom and how
she can still finish school and succeed? My own mom truly loved me and
wanted the best for me. She did not want me to grow up like she did, she
wanted me to have things that she didn’t have, and she wanted me to live a
better life than she lived. The only thing is, she wanted it too much and too
soon. She had me before she was ready, and ended up giving me the same
hard life she had.
Foster Care Youth United -- New York, NY
Reprinted with permission from Today’s Youth magazine.
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Activity: Mom Wasn’t Ready for Me….
› The author doesn’t mention her father. He seems to
have been totally absent. What are some ways it
might have helped if her father were added to the
picture?
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Session 5 – Video Clip
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What age of childhood do you think
would be the most challenging for you
to deal with?
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Session 6 – Video Clip
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What would be the
hardest thing for you to
give up if you became a
parent?
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Guess Game:
› Pick a spokes person at your table.
 THEY ARE THE ONLY ONES THAT CAN ANSWER!
 I will read the question say your name then
you have 30 sec to answer.
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Categories:
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Newborn to Four Months
Four to Eight Months
Eight to Twelve Months
One to Two Years
Two to Three Years
Three to Four Years
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Session 7 – Video Clip
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How do you think that
your daily schedule
would change if you
were a single parent?
Paul and Sarah
Paul, who is 18, recently gained visitation rights with his two-yearold daughter Sarah. He will now see her every other weekend. This is an
opportunity Paul has been looking forward to for a long time. But on his first
weekend, he was a little nervous because he had never cared for Sarah for
more than a few hours at a time.
Paul showed up early Friday to pick up his daughter. After a very
short conversation with Sarah’s mother, he took Sarah to his apartment,
hoping everything would go fine. About 6:00 in the evening, Paul and Sarah
went to McDonald’s for dinner. He ordered a hamburger, fries and soda for
both of them. Even after Paul broke Sarah’s food into small pieces, she
refused to eat. He then offered her something to drink, which she also
refused. Sarah began to cry, “I want my mommy.”
Feeling somewhat embarrassed and frustrated, Paul quickly
bagged the remaining food and went back home. To quiet Sarah, he gave
her potato chips and candy, which she ate. Paul then prepared bath water
to bathe his daughter. He washed her with his bar of deodorant soap.
The next morning, Sarah woke up with a rash all over her body. Paul
immediately tried to dress her, but when he looked in her bag, he found
only a pair of jeans – no t-shirt or underwear. Paul threw up his hands and
screamed,
“Why is this happening to me?”
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Activity: Paul and Sarah
› How should Paul handle this situation?
› Should he say anything to Sarah’s mother?
 If yes, What?
 If no, Why?
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Session 8– Video Clip
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How do you think that children feel when
their parents work as a team to raise
them?
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Activity: IALAC
› What did you think of the story?
› What was the point for you?
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Session 9 – Video Clip
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When do you think ‘going through child
support’ is the right thing to do?
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Child Support:
› 1 Child = 20% of net income
› 2 Children = 25%*
› 3 Children = 30%*
› 4 Children = 35%*
› 5 Children = 40%*
* These amounts are for multiple children with
the same two biological parents
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Session 10 – Video Clip
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What do you think a person should
‘know’ before getting married or having
children?
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Popular in the 1960’s
› Little girls while jumping rope would sing… 1st comes
love, then comes marriage, then comes _______ with a
baby carriage
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Activity: So when you start to look at your future
think about when important events will occur.
› Graduating from High School
› Falling in Love
› Attending College
› Starting a Career
› Getting your own place
› Traveling to new places
› Getting into a committed relationship / getting married
› Having a child / children
› Any other event they you may feel will be important
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Session 11 – Video Clip
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What is one quality that you think is a
“must’ for a healthy relationship?
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Session 12 – Video Clip
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Do you think that it’s
better to get married
before having kids?
Why?
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Activity: Read your group’s story.
› Be able to give a brief summary of the
situation in the story.
› Also be able to summarize the most
important part of your questions.
› Everyone must answer the questions on their
own paper.
Maria Wears My Jacket
Maria wears my jacket.
It has my number on it.
And she never takes it off.
That’s how I know she really loves me.
And my friends all know it too.
Maria wears my jacket.
When she doesn’t I feel diss’d.
Because it means that she doesn’t love me.
And I make here put it back on.
And promise never to take it off.
And I screamed and called her a liar and a fake. I told her
she didn’t love me.
And she just started crying.
And I don’t see what is wrong.
Because I really love her.
Maria wears my jacket.
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Activity: Maria Wears My Jacket
› What’s your reaction to this relationship?
› How common do you think this is?
› What does the Jacket seem to symbolize for
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each person in the poem?
What do you think it means to Maria when she
doesn’t wear her boyfriend’s jacket?
Maria’s boyfriend says “And my friends all know
it too.” What message is he trying to send to his
friends? Why do you think that is important to
him?
Why do you think he got so angry when he saw
Maria without his jacket? Why do you think he
treats Maria this way?
If you were Maria’s best friend and heard her
boyfriend call her a liar and a fake, what would
you say or do? If you were the boyfriends BF?
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Session 14 – Video Clip
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What do you think is a parent’s most
important job?
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8 out of 10 Texas High School Seniors will eventually be parents at
some point in their lives.
Both parents are to support their child until the child is 18.
Parents that had a child born in 2007, will spend $269,040 (on
average) raising that child until the age of 17.
In 2006, 37% of babies born in Texas where to unmarried parents.
Over 1 Billion dollars is spent by the Taxpayers for babies born to
teen parents.
When an unmarried father has a child, he automatically has NO
legal rights or responsibilities to the child.
An unmarried father’s name will not be on the birth certificate until
paternity is established.
The infant mortality rate is 2.3 times higher for children without a
father’s name on the birth certificate vs those who’s father’s name
is on the birth certificate.
Child support is 20% of the non custodial parents income.
$7.25 x 40 hrs = 1 week’s pay
› 1 week’s pay x 4 weeks = 1 month’s pay
› 1 month’s pay x 20% (or .2) = amount paid each month in child support
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